Support to me is having
like comfortable wedge where I can fall from the sky and know it will be there
to uphold me and comfort me. While
support mean different things to different people I feel the kind of support I
need on a daily basis would be emotional, physical, social, financial support, and
academic support.
Within my daily environment
I do not get lot of these supports which I very much desire. Emotional support
is essential to me because sometimes I get so anxious or stress out with life
that I need someone to listen to my chagrins and fears but there is none around
me. I used to have all these supports and took them for granted. I had a spouse
who supported me emotionally, physically would compliment my looks, and would
reach out to zip my dress on the back for me, would fix and repair minor things
around the house. Paid the bills, and I could shop lavishly. He could help
spell a word or correct my trend of thought. All that support vanished with my
spouse when he went to be with the Lord. With that support gone, now I have
learned to do a lot as a handywoman. I am so proud of myself when I take patience and assemble a gadget or repair a fixture in the house;but sometimes I wish
someone could change the bulbs for me. Nonetheless, I have family, good friends whom
I can count on for emotional support occasionally. Social support may sound
trivial but it is vital. I do not go to movies, clubs frequently like I used to
do in the past because I do not want to feel like I am pesky. Sometimes your
friends are too busy with work when you want to go relax. But with a loved one
around it is easier to decide on a daily basis where and when you want to go out
and socialize. When it comes to financial support I will wish I had someone to
help out with the bills. Nonetheless,
without financial support I have learned to live within my means and be
contented. I do not have credit cards and often discipline myself with questions
like “Do I need it or do I want it” before buying something. As regards academic support, it is the only
support I get the most on a daily basis. I love to read and enjoy a good novel;
I have colleagues that are great inquirers of knowledge and the constant quest
for more research based evidence keeps academic support afloat. I love to
attend conferences and stay abreast with new information in the field of
education.
The benefits of these supports
are countless. Whatever form of support given, makes one feel loved, gives one
a sense of belongingness, and one is able to count on someone for support in the
darkest moments of life and challenges. You feel secretly secured because you have
people who can listen to you and give their honest feedback. If something
should happen (God forbid it), that I became wheel chair bound then, it will be
all scary and gloomy, if these supports are not in place. Life would be a nightmare, miserable,
desolate, depressed, and simply unbearable; and I can only imagine how rejected
I would feel. Life without support would make my heart long for death. For now,
I am too busy sometimes to feel the absence of these supports in my life and I
hope it stays so for a longtime to come. The bottom line is we all need someone
for support in our life. No man is an island and be it emotional, physical,
social, financial or academic support should be appreciated and not taken for
granted.
