"My Support"

Support to me is having like comfortable wedge where I can fall from the sky and know it will be there to uphold me and comfort me.  While support mean different things to different people I feel the kind of support I need on a daily basis would be emotional, physical, social, financial support, and academic support.

Within my daily environment I do not get lot of these supports which I very much desire. Emotional support is essential to me because sometimes I get so anxious or stress out with life that I need someone to listen to my chagrins and fears but there is none around me. I used to have all these supports and took them for granted. I had a spouse who supported me emotionally, physically would compliment my looks, and would reach out to zip my dress on the back for me, would fix and repair minor things around the house. Paid the bills, and I could shop lavishly. He could help spell a word or correct my trend of thought. All that support vanished with my spouse when he went to be with the Lord. With that support gone, now I have learned to do a lot  as a handywoman. I am so proud of myself  when I take patience and assemble a gadget or repair a fixture in the house;but sometimes I wish someone could change the bulbs for me.  Nonetheless, I have family, good friends whom I can count on for emotional support occasionally. Social support may sound trivial but it is vital. I do not go to movies, clubs frequently like I used to do in the past because I do not want to feel like I am pesky. Sometimes your friends are too busy with work when you want to go relax. But with a loved one around it is easier to decide on a daily basis where and when you want to go out and socialize. When it comes to financial support I will wish I had someone to help out with the bills.  Nonetheless, without financial support I have learned to live within my means and be contented. I do not have credit cards and often discipline myself with questions like “Do I need it or do I want it” before buying something.  As regards academic support, it is the only support I get the most on a daily basis. I love to read and enjoy a good novel; I have colleagues that are great inquirers of knowledge and the constant quest for more research based evidence keeps academic support afloat. I love to attend conferences and stay abreast with new information in the field of education.

The benefits of these supports are countless. Whatever form of support given, makes one feel loved, gives one a sense of belongingness, and one is   able to count on someone for support in the darkest moments of life and challenges. You feel secretly secured because you have people who can listen to you and give their honest feedback. If something should happen (God forbid it), that I became wheel chair bound then, it will be all  scary and gloomy, if these supports are not in place. Life would be a nightmare, miserable, desolate, depressed, and simply unbearable; and I can only imagine how rejected I would feel. Life without support would make my heart long for death. For now, I am too busy sometimes to feel the absence of these supports in my life and I hope it stays so for a longtime to come. The bottom line is we all need someone for support in our life. No man is an island and be it emotional, physical, social, financial or academic support should be appreciated and not taken for granted.